A Year of Reflection

Updated: Aug 2, 2020

Usually it's major events, tragedy, milestone birthdays and such that force us to pause and think about big "meaning of life" questions. While I generally consider myself a thoughtful person (meaning I think about what I do and why), I came to realize earlier this year that I was spending a lot of time doing work that was taking a way from my quality of life and wasn't improving the lives of people I care about. I had been very focused on things that matter to other people but didn't even reflect my own interests and values. Why was I doing this? How did I let it get to this point? I got lost in trying to please others, not thinking about how it was dimming my light.

Yes, it is the prospect of a big milestone birthday that prompted all this thinking. It's crazy but it's taken half a century for me to get to the point where I can feel confident about doing what I want to do with and for the people who matter to me. I don't all the answers about what works, but over nearly 50 years I have learned a lot about what doesn't work. I had fallen in this trap of thinki